Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel
uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness
of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden
violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about
marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power
and control, not about being out of control. There is no excuse for
marital violence ever."
The aims of the book are changing the rape culture and helping
survivors. Chapters cover identifying rape in marriage, women at
risk, staying with a partner who has raped you, sexuality after
partner rape, a safety plan, and numerous other issues related to
partner rape.
As American author Monika Ostroff says, "Real Rape, Real Pain
is the compassionate, loving friend that reaches into the darkness
to the sufferer of partner rape, offering hope and help for a
healthy life, free from violence. A wise teacher, this book will
inform everyone from professionals working in the field to family
members of women being victimized to politicians who are
empowered to make the necessary changes to ensure safety on all
our behalves. This book is a beacon of light that illuminates a
dark, misunderstood yet incredibly common phenomenon of
violence. It is a must-read for every survivor, family member,
clinician, and politician!"