I wrote this to help the American audience repair its relationship with sex. It took twenty-one years to write this book. No one has ever used one's own life as grounds for data gathering for sex. This book is not about tips and techniques but about philosophy. A female philosopher wrote this book.

This book is a companion to The Meaning of a Metaphorical Life, a memoir that focuses on Christianity to show the inherent compatibility of sex with Christianity. This book is novel not only in content but also in format and style, where it is written as a collaboration between two people, both called me. The first part of the book is a giant quotation to maintain the integrity of what I had written previously as a younger person. The content of the first part of the book comes from me as a youthful writer. Footnotes come from me as editor.